“First, I thank my God through Jesus Christ for all of you, because your faith is being reported all over the world. God, whom I serve in my spirit in preaching the gospel of his Son, is my witness how constantly I remember you in my prayers at all times; and I pray that now at last by God’s will the way may be opened for me to come to you. I long to see you so that I may impart to you some spiritual gift to make you strong— that is, that you and I may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith. I do not want you to be unaware, brothers and sisters, that I planned many times to come to you (but have been prevented from doing so until now) in order that I might have a harvest among you, just as I have had among the other Gentiles. (NIV)”

In studying these scriptures I found that Rome in 58 A.D. had a population of more than 1 million people. The areas were split up into “ethnic neighborhoods” that had their own government. These neighborhoods “maintained an uneasy peace with one another to avoid persecution by the government”. To separate yourself even more from family, friends, neighborhood by becoming a Christian brought even more persecution on a person. It would also bring on a sense of disconnection and loneliness. Paul knew that what these believers would need most is encouragement to continue on. He does this in several ways. First, he lets them know that their faith is being spoken of throughout the world. This was the good job, pat on the back they needed. Second, he let them know that he was constantly praying for them. Third, he encourages them by sharing his desire to be there with them to help build their faith and bring others into a belief in Jesus Christ. (Summary of Charles Swindoll’s Insights on Romans commentary for this passage)

I think this is a model for us in how we help believers who are discouraged, living in hard conditions, and/or being persecuted. They need to know that we see what they are doing for God in such hard times; giving them the appreciation they deserve. Prayer is vital, but often misunderstood. Sometimes when we write a comment to someone that we are praying for them it may not always be received properly. Many times the person may feel blown off. We should take time in our response to convey that we truly care about their situation and because of that we will keep them in prayer. In some cases being with the person or people is impossible, but maybe there are other tangible ways we can help. 

But, in many cases that person lives just down the street. You know those times when a tragedy strikes a friend or relative, and you’re sitting there not knowing what to do? It can be awkward, we want to do something to make things better but don’t know what that is. Out of my own experiences, like when my son was battling cancer as a baby and young child, I can tell you that just being there is all that is needed. Words may not feel like enough, but your love comforts. Sit quietly next to them and let them cry. If there are children involved see if you can take them out for a little bit to give the person peace. Maybe they are just in a stressful situation – they’ll still need quiet times to ease the stress.  My point though is that sometimes there is nothing to say, no words that will fix or heal, and all that is needed is your presence and prayer.